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Bar Mitzvah Planning

A Bar Mitzvah isn't just a major event in the life of a child, it's a milestone for the entire family. It's the rite of passage that brings the child into adulthood, and it's about accepting that responsibility, connecting with tradition and more. From a religious perspective, your child will then be able to have full involvement with all activities of Jewish adults, including fasting over the high holidays, forming a prayer minyan and more.

Whether or not you are very religious, the Bar Mitzvah milestone is still a huge one that represents a great milestone and a chance for excitement and celebration.

Planning a bar or bat mitzvah though can be incredibly intensive. Therefore, it's great to see a few tips that you can fall back on to help guide you throughout the process.

1. Always remember what the event means, and keep it in perspective. It's easy to get caught up in the event and all of the miniscule details of the party, or the invitations, or the decorations or food. But remember, this is about a milestone in your child's life, and above all else, it should stress the importance and traditional meaning of that. In other words, don't lose focus of what it's all about.

2. You should definitely consult with your child and get his or her input on the event and everything that surrounds it. It is about them, after all, not you and your own desires or tastes. That doesn't mean that your kid should decide everything, or be expected to. But when it comes down to choosing between different options, styles or themes, expressing an overall sentiment on what the event should be like and more, get the honoree involved.

3. Don't worry about keeping up with the Jones's or anybody else. You don't have to do it bigger and better than anyone, nor do you have to do it in anyone else's style. Do it for yourself and your family, and do it your way.

This is a once in a lifetime event, and it's meant to be enjoyed as a celebration and milestone, so make it a great and memorable one with the above tips.

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